Get In There and Clean it Up

“ But no one else can clean the messes that we’ve made in our own lives and relationships. We have to be willing to get in there, without hating the garbage, without blaming ourselves or the other, and simply clean. ” – Zen and the Art of Falling in Love. Too often we look at a situation and think, “Crap! How the hell did I let it get this bad?” And then the blame, guilt, shame, and procrastination comes. This is true in anything from job, career, or marriage. Some people wake up thirty years later and realize they’re in a marriage that is killing them. Could it have been saved? Maybe.  They wake up thirty years later in a...